A Parent’s Story of Tough Love
For too long Helena, a mother of four boys, had allowed her eldest son Joey to call the shots. By the time he was seventeen, Joey had left school early and was teetering on the wrong side of the tracks. Despite Joey no longer living in the family home, Helena did his washing, cooked his meals, handed over money for his groceries, and spent her nights driving him around town with music shaking the car. With Joey on a first name basis with the local police, Helena needed to do something about his disruptive behaviour before it ripped her family apart.
Wild Boys details how Helena learned to be a better parent and reveals how we all can learn to have better relationships with our sons.The book also explores the challenge of disengaged youth from a mother’s perspective and offers an intimate insight into rarely chronicled aspects of youth work.
I wish this book was available ten years ago so I could have prepared myself better as a parent to a teenager. As the mother of boys myself, Wild Boys is the perfect guide to grace my shelves. The journey from boy to man is tough enough without adding to it the social trials and tests thrown in its path. From the first page, I could relate to Ms Pastor’s experiences. I’ve had the same doubts, confrontations, discussions and battles, so it was good to know I’m not alone.
Not only should parents read this book, their kids should too. For young men going through this transition, it might help them seek help outside the parental realm before it’s too late. Wild Boys showcases the need for teenage boys to be kept busy and out of trouble during this difficult period, as well as the difference an adult who is not part of their family circle and who understands them can make.
A confronting yet comforting read, I’m glad Pastor could share these experiences with us. Well-written, easy to read, Wild Boys is a book that will hopefully be passed down through the generations as our modern parenting world becomes more difficult and demanding every day.